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Ask the Psychologist – Rucha Vaidya

Rucha Vaidya, a Nagpur based Consulting Psychologist, clears doubts and apprehensions of the teenagers and their parents, through this column of hers at Nation Next. Rucha has worked as a child counsellor with  Centre Point School, Nagpur, for around three years. For your queries, write to Rucha at [email protected]/nation-next. 

I am a mother of a 14-year-old girl. Of late, I have been observing that my daughter is going through frequent mood swings and has an elevated anger. I am very worried about it and don’t know what to do. What can be the reason?

Your worries can be understood. Since your daughter is in her early adolescence and has reached her puberty, there is an increase of hormones in the body that usually leads to emotional and behavioural changes. Even slightest of our actions can annoy teenagers and make them very angry. Mood swings also occur regularly at this age . I would suggest that you read about the changes, which children go through during puberty, for a better insight into the problem. Try to be a friend to your daughter. When she is in distress, sit down with her and ask her politely about her problems. Give her suggestions and solutions, instead of getting angry and lecturing her. Don’t establish that shes completely incorrect. You could also help her by narrating some instances from your teenage days. This usually helps children relate with their parents better as they realise that their parents too have gone through same confusion and irritation as teenagers.

I am an 18-year-old boy. My friends smoke and drink. I know that this is something I don’t want to do right now but I still sometimes accompany them and indulge in such acts. Please help me, as I’m confused.

What you are facing is called peer pressure. Teenagers want to have a lot of friends and they feel that every friend is extremely important. You still have a lot of time to enjoy these indulgences; it would be advantageous for you to focus on your goal right now. It is okay to say NO? to your friends. Those who understand will still be around. This is quiet a difficult task to achieve but be strong, keep your aim in mind and act accordingly. Avoid going out with your friends when you know they are going to drink or smoke.

I am 19 years old and I have a boyfriend. I really like him. I feel uncomfortable when he tries to get close to me. How should I deal with this

Please tell your boyfriend as soon as possible that you are not ready for any intimacy. Be firm when you tell him this. Convey your apprehensions about all the things that you are not comfortable with. If he tries to understand you, he will change his behaviour.

I am a 20-year-old boy. My longstanding girlfriend has just broken up with me, and I am having a hard time forgetting her. Please guide me.

During such times, we often experience the power of emotions overtaking our rational decision-making. Make an effort to channelise your emotions into something creative like a hobby or a physical activity that will help you get relieved of your feelings towards her. Try to keep yourself busy at all times. Though all this will take a little while but with time, the surge of emotions that you are facing will settle for sure.

I am a 17-year-old boy, and I am very confused about my career choice. I am currently attending my PMT tuitions but I’m not sure if I want to be a doctor. How can you help me decide?

Check for yourself if you are interested in the subjects you have chosen. Research about the field and what all subjects you will have to study while doing your MBBS. These basic questions will give you all the required information. You could also get an aptitude test done for a clearer perspective. If possible, talk to the professionals from the same field to clear your doubts further.

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RMBRCN celebrates Charter Presentation & Installation, Rina Sinha becomes Charter President



The Rotary Means Business chapter of Rotary Club Of Nagpur (RMBRCN) celebrated their Charter Presentation and Installation of Board on September 17, 2023 in a crisp official ceremony at Hotel Centre Point, Nagpur.

Rotary Means Business encourages Rotarians to support the success of their fellow Rotarians by doing business with them and by referring others to them.

Charter President Past President Rtn Rina Sinha presided over the ceremony. Renowned entrepreneur and Rotarian Aspi Bapuna, Chairman of Bapuna Group, was the Chief Guest and  Rtn Namita Sharma, President of RCN, was the Guest of Honour.

The Board of Directors of RMBRCN include Rtn Navneet Jain, Vice President, Rtn Mohammed Master, Honorary Secretary, Rtn Sanjay Aggarwal Treasurer, Rtn Rakhi Bhatia Director Chapter Service, Rtn Rahul Shrivastava, Director Vocational Service, Dr Ruchi Choudhry, Director Membership Development, Ranjana Duseja, Director Attendance.

Past Rotary District Governor (PDG) Shabbir Shakir, Past Presidents- Bharat Goenka , Khushnoor Chugh, Sanjiv Chugh, Akhtar Parvez, Tejinder Singh Rawal, Alok Goenka,  Jerestine Watchmaker, Sandeep Dhodapkar, Sanjay Arora, President RMB Nagpur, and Behram Patel and Amitabh Sinha were present.

President Rina Sinha informed that within a short period of its formation already 48 members representing various businesses  have joined the chapter and the numbers are increasing . The Chapter has already crossed 5 crores of business amongst their members and RMB will further strengthen Rotary in membership growth and retention .

Chief Guest Rtn Aspi Bapuna lauded the chapter’s success and reiterated that its comfortable and safe to do business among fellow rotarians as all follow the Four Way Test of Rotary. Jerestine introduced President Rina. Aspi Bapuna  presented the charter and installed President Rina Sinha . Rtn Namita congratulated the RMB chapter and informed that this is the new initiative at RCN.The Board was installed by Rina Sinha and all members were installed by the Past Presidents. An exclusive digital Monthly Magazine ‘Growth Engine’ was launched by Editor Niharika Chugh Vali.

 Navneet Jain and Rahul Choudhry conducted the referral and thank you session where enthusiastic members informed about their successful business details. Nishchay Sinha launched the social media and MYRMB app which connects members to other chapters digitally, Treasurer Sanjay Agarwal gave treasurers report, Rtn Rakhi Bhatia managed the event. Rtn Parag Datey and Niharika were the Masters of Ceremony (MOCs). Secretary Mohammed Master proposed the formal Vote of Thanks .

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Nitin Gadkari inaugurates double-decker electric bus availed for senior citizens in Nagpur



Minister of Road Transport and Highways Nitin Gadkari, on Saturday, inaugurated the double-decker electric bus designed for senior citizens in Nagpur. The initiative has been undertaken in association with Ashok Leyland’s CSR (Corporate Social Responsibility) Committee and Jyeshtha Nagarik Pratishthan.

Executive President of Jyeshtha Nagarik Pratishthan Datta Meghe, Vice Chairman of Ashok Leyland Limited Yash Sachar, CEO of Switch Mobility Mahesh Babu, and other dignitaries were present during the inauguration.

“I am very thankful to Ashok Leyland’s electric vehicle arm ‘Switch Mobility’ for donating an electric bus for our senior citizens. The bus can hold a capacity of 65 people and will benefit a lot to disabled and senior citizens,” Gadkari said.

“We already have a green Electra bus available to us for the past five to six years. Krishna Reddy has taken the responsibility of repairing and providing air-conditioning to the bus, moreover, he is providing us with one additional bus. A Tata Motor bus will be arriving this month as well, giving us a total of four buses to operate. This will solve the issue of waiting list due to the lack of buses for senior citizens in the city.” he added.

With the help of these buses, senior citizens can avail the benefit of free trips to religious places like Ambhora, Adasa, Shegaon, Mahur, Dhapewada, and Kalamb.

Also read: NMC confiscates 117 PoP idols, collects Rs 10,000 fine from seller


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Nagpur: Married man accused of girlfriend’s rape commits suicide on Facebook live



A 38-year-old married man named Manish alias Raj Yadav, on Sunday, committed suicide during a Facebook live-stream after allegedly being accused of rape by his girlfriend and her family in Nagpur.

During the live stream, Manish, who was married and a father to three children, stated that his 19-year-old girlfriend, Kajal, along with her family members demanded a sum of five lakh rupees and threatened to press charges of rape if he failed to do so.

On September 6, the situation became grave as the woman’s family accused him of eloping after Kajal went missing from her residence.

The deceased refused the claims of having any sexual relationship with the woman and identified her, her family, and a photo studio operator responsible for his condition. He, then, jumped into the river.

After the live video surfaced online, Kalamna Police launched a search operation and recovered the deceased’s body from the river. Four people have been detained in the case for questioning. Further investigation is underway.

Also read: NMC confiscates 117 PoP idols, collects Rs 10,000 fine from seller

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