An open public session Young Love by the Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapist, Nagpur, was organised at Chitnavis Centre on November 27, 2016, for the age group of 18 to 25 years. The topic of the session was Relationships, Intimacy & The Real Life, which was discussed by Dr Sapna Sharma (international spiritual counsellor) and Dr Sanjay Deshpande (sexologist). The speakers discussed the issues and myths surrounding relationships, intimacy amongst today’s younger generation.
Nation Next gives you a rundown on some of valuable gyaan these two speakers gave to Nagpur youngsters!
Dr Sapna Sharma: Youngsters come to me with new problems everyday! This is what I keep telling them?
These days youngsters are depressed because they don’t have a girlfriend or a boyfriend in their lives.
This generation hasn’t discovered themselves; they need to introspect to know who and what they really are.
Youngsters enter into a relationship as they are bored of their lives. And, they expect their partners to keep them happy.
People say ?pyaar ho jata hai, (love happens). But, that’s not love, that’s attraction, which happens to everyone; it’s natural. But when you are genuinely ready for commitment, that is called love.
If we don’t know what we want out of our relationship, then we are digging our own graves.
People today are getting divorced within five to six months of their marriage because of lack of trust, patience, freedom and ego issues.
Can you imagine a lady once wanted to get divorced as she didn’t wish to operate the washing machine at her place because she thought this was something that her husband too could do!
Youngsters need to introspect whether they are emotionally stable or not.
The younger generation isn’t ready to adjust. Earlier people would compromise and adjust to live in harmony with each other.
Nowadays, couples who have been dating since more than five years, head for a divorce within two months of their marriage!
Girls need to understand that life isn’t same after marriage. Couple should marry only if they are ready to adjust and comprise when required or else they should stay unmarried.
Some boyfriends restrict their girlfriends to wear short dresses, attend parties, drink or smoke. If the girlfriend doesn’t mind changing herself for her boyfriend, only then she should go ahead with her relationship. But, if a girl doesn’t want to change herself for a guy, then she should change the guy!
A couple should talk about their expectations they have, from each other.
If a guy always agrees with you on everything and his answer is ?yes each time, it doesn’t mean this will be the scenario all your life.
The real problem in a relationship starts when a couple starts living together.
If you have differences with your partner, resolve them before getting married to him/her.
If a couple has an argument at night and the next day they again become a lovey-dovey couple, they should instead resolve their issues rather than happily forgetting them.
We should love ourselves because if we don’t, we can’t love anybody else.
You should spend as much time possible with the person you wish to be in a relationship with.
Most people indulge in relationships because of exchanging continuous messages to each other through WhatsApp. Midnight conversations are extremely risky because one feels more connected with the other person while conversing post 10:00 pm. This is how they end up dating each other.
Couples, despite facing lot of pressure and torture from their partners, stay back in their relationship. If your partner doesn’t let you grow as a person, you should realise that it’s not love!
For all the couples, this is food for thought:Koi tumhe baar baar girata hai, kya woh tumhe saccha pyaar karta hai??
No matter how bad a boyfriend treats his partner, most girlfriends say, Shadi usi se karungi, even if they can’t be happy together.
Sometimes, young girls and boys are blackmailed. In such cases, couples should confide in their parents.
Don’t feel isolated in a relationship; you will never be happy.
Love is beautiful, and if it makes you feel beautiful, then it’s ?love. It should be rise in love? and not ?fall in love.
Girls need to understand that they can’t separate their husbands from their families.
These days girls want to be independent, work post marriage and even have babies. But, once they have a child, they feel burdened. If you are career oriented, don’t bear a child. Children might go through terrible abuses if left unattended. Girls and boys are equal but they are not the same.
A couples real challenge starts after their honeymoon!
She concluded her speech by saying that once, somebody asked Sushmita Sen, If you wanted a baby, why didn’t you get married She replied, I wanted a baby so I adopted one. Likewise, if I want to get married I’ll get married! She knew what she wanted in her life. Likewise, even the younger generation should discover and love themselves first and then take a decision.
Dr Sanjay Deshpande: He spoke about the issues and myths about sex amongst youngsters. Here are some interesting pointers!
Youngsters are scared to share their sexual abuse stories. They should be able to differentiate between what is acceptable and what is not.
Parents always tell their children to not to smoke, drink, or abuse. But, never do they talk about sex with them.
Till we die, we would always have the urge to have sex.
Sex is subjective for each person. There are still lot of myths and taboos surrounding sex.
People feel that sex related issues cant be solved, which is not true. Sex is the climax of love.
People enjoy sex, but they don’t like discussing it. Why is it that people mind talking about it?
If you have any sex related problems, you should consult your elders.
You should have mutual trust with the person whom you have sex with. One shouldn’t have forced sex.
The younger generation doesn’t mind indulging in sexual activties with somebody they barely know.
A father should educate his son about his sons first erection and night-falls.
Men are more violent as they don’t know how to express their feelings and emotions. That’s the reason they are more violent during sex.
Parents should educate their sons as to how to respect girls and educate them about sex too as sex isn’t a crime or a sin.
If a wife doesn’t want to have sex, the husband should respect her feelings. It doesn’t means shes disrespecting her husband. Men need to understand that no means no, when it comes to sex.
One should know what a good and a bad touch is. A good touch is something that gives you pleasure during sex.
Porn sites tell how to make your penis grow bigger; that’s unrealistic! As a result, people develop anxiety about their sexual performance thinking that their penis size isn’t normal. The average size of a penis is around four and a half to five inches.
Sex is not only mechanical; it’s emotional too. Don’t compare your present sexual encounters with your past ones.
?Unprotected sex is a big no!
?People have lot of misconceptions and myths about loss of semen, masturbation, nocturnal emissions, size of genitals, size of breasts, their first night post marriage, etc. They should be well-informed.
?People have a lot of quieries regarding various sex positions, frequency of sex, vaginal bleeding, contraception and even regarding who should be initiating sex. They should discuss it with an experienced and knowledgable person.
Former T20 World Cup captain Gurudas Raut inaugurates DPS MIHAN’s President’s Cup | Nagpur
The second edition of prestigious President’s Cup in Tennis Ball cricket was held in the sprawling campus of Delhi Public School MIHAN from January 27 to January 30, 2023.
2019 T20 World Cup captain Gurudas Raut was present as Chief Guest and inaugurated the event. The tournament is played on IPL format on knockout basis in which 6 teams participated comprising of students from various schools.
Indian cricketer Faiz Fazal, an Indian cricketer was present as a Chief Guest for closing ceremony. Sanjay Badkas, Secretary, VCA
Nagpur and C.D. Manke, Joint Secretary and Chairman of Ground Committee of VCA Nagpur was also present on this occasion as Guests of Honor.
The finals was played between Galaxy Racers and Marvels. Galaxy Racers won the final by defeating Marvels by 11 runs and lifted the President’s Cup 2.0. Aryan Suke of Team Phoenix was awarded the Aranya Kedia Trophy for the player of the Tournament.
Faiz Fazal in his speech, appreciated the efforts taken by Delhi Public School MIHAN by organising the President’s Cup and providing facilities for the development of sports.
Nidhi Yadav, Principal DPS MIHAN highlighted the vision of President and Pro Vice Chairperson Ms. Tulika Kedia who
ensures the best of sporting facilities are provided to the students for holistic education and for psycho-socio development. She also thanked the Director Savita Jaiswal for her constant guidance and support.
As a part of this event, Inter Corporate Cricket Tournament was also organised in which eight teams from different corporate sectors participated. Dr Amit Samarth, the Bicycle Mayor of Nagpur graced the occasion as Chief Guest and handed over the trophy to the winning team.
12-yr-old Nagpur boy dies after trying to imitate a deadly YouTube video
A 12-year-old boy named Agranya Barapatre in Nagpur breathed his last after trying to imitate a video on YouTube at his neighbour’s place. The woman, in the video, is seen demonstrating how she escaped with her hands tied behind, gagged and face covered with scarves. He was found hanging from a wooden ladder’s stick on the neighbour’s terrace but there was no knot on the scarf.
Upon inspection, it was learnt that Agranya had downloaded a video titled ‘Full face cover challenge’ in his phone. Cops said that there was no reason for the teenager to commit suicide but the possibility of an accident could not be ruled out.
Arangya’s mother said the couple had no clue where the scarf came from; he only carried a chakri and a kite. She also revealed that her son usually played on their neighbour’s terrace
Reportedly, Agranya was undergoing a psychiatric treatment as he was a hyperactive kid who wasn’t attentive in studies. He was good with using phones and application so his family tried to keep the phone away from him. However, he would somehow always locate the phone.
Agranya, the only child to his parents, was supposed to be felicitated at his school on Thursday during Republic Day for securing second position at a double-lathi event at the third National Traditional Lathi Sports Championship in Indore.
Post the incident, he was rushed to Government Medical College but was declared dead. Sakkardara Police registered a case of accident death.
President’s Cup 2.0 kickstarts at DPS MIHAN in Nagpur
The second edition of the President’s Cup for Tennis Ball and Cricket was held in the sprawling campus of Delhi Public School (DPS MIHAN) on Friday, January 27. Gurudas Raut, a differently-abled international cricket player, captain of T20 World Cup 2019 and a recipient of many awards instituted by BCCI, ICC and VCA graced the occasion as Chief Guest and inaugurated the event. Janak Shahu, Secretary, Physically Challenged Cricket Association was also present on this occasion.
Nidhi Yadav Principal at DPS MIHAN welcomed the guests by presenting saplings, which is the tradition of the school. In her welcome address, she highlighted the vision of President and Pro Vice Chairperson Tulika Kedia who ensures the best of sporting facilities are provided to the students for holistic education and for psycho- socio development.
She also thanked the Director Savita Jaiswal for her constant guidance and support. She expressed her gratitude for the benign presence of Raut to motivate the young players befitting to the occasion. She emphasized that he is a perfect role model for the budding cricketers.
Raut in his speech, appreciated the sporting facilities and encouragement given by the school for the development of sporting culture amongst the students. He emphasized that one should explore opportunities and believe in oneself to achieve one’s goal. He mentioned that with will power he could pursue cricket and achieve laurels at national and international level inspite of his limitations.
In this edition, six teams are competing for the coveted President’s Cup. The finals will be held on Monday 30th January 2023.